FAT PEOPLE AND CLOTHES ( Plus Size )

Ohhhhhhhhhh Now that title has opened up a WHOLE HOST of angry comments i bet
BUT WAIT
I am FAT and i wear CLOTHES - so - I HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO NAME IT THAT
I don't find it offensive - I am Upfront and Quite at ease with myself, If your Fat - and Hate the word Fat - Then you have bought into this FAT SHAMING FAD - Which should in fact be laughed at ..

I am HUGE, have lots of rolls, and cellulite - double chins - bingo wings -

BUT -

BLOODY HELL - I'M SEXY !!

AND I DARE ANYONE TO TELL ME OTHERWISE !!!

WHO HAS THE RIGHT,  TO TELL ME OTHERWISE ???

And if i do get told otherwise - WHY LISTEN and get upset - As a guy told me just this morning -
" Don't lower yourself to their standards " NO - If I want to wear something - and I FEEL GOOD AND THINK I LOOK NICE - THEN THAT IS WHAT COUNTS ....

If someone you LOVE says NO THAT IS NOT A GOOD LOOK
- But - YOU are still happy -
then - Smile - say - " Thank you " for their opinion -
But -

YOU stand by what YOU think - 

If YOU like it - YOU wear it ... 

It is up to THEM to embrace your individuality - and NOT your headache to make them feel less intimidated by your look - They are less understanding - or simply embarrassed -
IF THEY DON'T LIKE IT - and the reason is valid - FINE - they are allowed THEIR opinion -

BUT it does NOT mean you have to agree .


I have been told MANY MANY times to stop showing so much cleavage

.... I CAN'T HELP THAT MY BREASTS ARE LARGE. ....


and in fact -

They are a wonderful asset to make me feel womanly and beautiful
( Although - If i did not have them - I would simply accentuate the Positive parts about ME - !! -
A woman does NOT need Breasts to be WOMANLY ! )

and I DON'T actually actively encourage them to be the main part of my being !!

However :

Life is what we make it.
We have freedom of choice, of what actions we take and how we choose to be.

We can either be positive or negative.
We can choose either Acceptance or Fail .... 

There is an old song with the lyrics "Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative." The drawn-out pronunciation of the word accentuate (ack-SEN-chew-ate) draws attention to the word, which is exactly what i aim to do - I aim to accentuate my Positives - to get rid and live with the negatives !! .....


You've got to accentuate the positive
Eliminate the negative
Latch on to the affirmative
Don't mess with Mister In-Between

You've got to spread joy up to the maximum
Bring gloom down to the minimum
Have faith or pandemonium
Liable to walk upon the scene

HAVE A LISTEN TO ARETHA - AND EMBRACE !!!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4IP9h40z0sk&list=RD4IP9h40z0sk#t=0

 SO - WHY CAN'T I?? ...... If i have a guy stare at them - I ALWAYS TELL HIM STRAIGHT -
" Talk to me please - NOT MY BOOBS "
 The cleavage is there for my Benefit - NOBODY ELSES !! But - Why hide Perfection !!!!

In the above photo - as i hope you can see - I am actually accentuating my EYES = The colour - the shape = the Vividness !!

My Boobs are well - just there !!! - I am NOT drawing attention to them -
I hope your eyes are drawn to mine - In that photo - I am actually wearing a Cami Top = BUT - it looks like i am in nothing but a Bra - Lol - Very seductive - But - actually - I'd just got back from ASDA !! = That's so NOT seductive now is it !!

I also get told - 'Oh you should not wear 'that' .. because it is

Too short

Too see through

Too Tight

But - when does a THINNER person get told .....
You look too Thin in that -
I'd wear something that covers you up ??



My FAVOUITE clothing Brands are listed below - The Top Two - being my best loved .... I will always - if possible - by clothes from here - The First is so inexpensive - hard wearing - sexy and colourful , and Joe Browns - OMG - Unique and Different - Both are so comfortable, and easy to wear - and please - RAVVVVISHING !

http://www.angelafashion.com/ - All the long Bright Dresses !! 

http://www.simplybe.co.uk/shop/page/joebrowns/show.action

www.curvissa.co.uk/Women_Plus_Size‎
 

www.fashionworld.co.uk/Plus_Size

www.simplybe.co.uk/

www.yoursclothing.co.uk/

www.forever21.com/faith21


 OK - I have also LOADS of Tops from a fella on Ebay = and OMG as you can see if you watch my YouTube Videos - Or look at my Google+ account - I DO HAVE ABOUT 12 TOPS = and i also use them a pj's and Dresses - so very versatile

I have almost every colour - Click on the link below - then look at his shop for the Long Cami plus size tops - They are fabulous, and true to size - and wash so well - and pleaseeee - LOOK AT THE PRICE - AN UTTER BARGIN !! The Seller is also VERY VERY Honest and reliable - and so very friendly -

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The Seller is also VERY VERY Honest and reliable - and so very friendly - GO LOOK - ( After you have finished here !! )



What I am going to say to YOU -

as a
PLUS SIZE LADY -
A FAT PERSON -
A CURVACIOUS BEAUTY -
A FATTY
BUXOM
BOOTYLICIOUS

I have every right to wear 

what i want - 

when i want -

I am aware that YOU may not like it -
You may deem my wear as Inappropriate or too sexy / showing too much flesh -
BUT
I beg to Differ = If i want to show my curves  -  THEN I SHALL -

It will never be Pornographic or TO MUCH -
No Intimate parts will ever be exposed, So - WHAT HARM AM I DOING ?

I aim to please Myself  - and that is NOT meant to sound as rude as it does !

I WANT and NEED to Feel better about myself  IN MY OWN WAY - and - by doing - maybe what you don't like - I can make myself smile - Is that not a good thing ???

Everybody has individual feeling on clothes - not one person is the same -

EVERYBODY NEEDS TO SIT BACK - AND RELAX - 

LET INDIVIDUALITY SHINE !!! 

FAT - SKINNY SHAMING / SOCIETY SUCKS !

MORNING - JUST SAT HERE ON A BEAUTIFUL SUNDAY MORNING PONDERING !!
and well -

Fat and Thin



- Why is there such a terrible stigma between the both ?

People immediately form opinions when they see a Fat person or a Skinny Person !
But then ....
People immediately form opinions when they see a Redhead or a Blondie !
People immediately form opinions when they see a Teenager or an Elderly Person !
People immediately form opinions when they see a Man or a Woman !
People immediately form opinions when they see a Beautiful person or a 'Normal' person !
People immediately form opinions when they see a Celebrity or a Person next door !
People immediately form opinions when they see an Effeminate guy !
People immediately form opinions when they see a Tattoo'ed, Short Haired Woman !

People immediately form opinions when they see a Labrador or a Rottweiler !!!!!

Stigma EVERYWHERE !! ...

Fat V's Thin =





FAT -
'I eat too much for whatever reason' - 'I have Genetic reason's for being Fat - My Family is Big Boned' - 'I have medical issues to why i am fat' - ' I don't have time to exercise ' - 'I have anxiety'

THIN -
'I eat too little for whatever reason' - 'I have genetic reason's for being thin - My family are all little' - 'I have medical reasons for being thin' - ' I exercise alot ' - 'I have anxiety' !!!!!!!

SO MANY REASONS !! = AND ALL THE SAME !!!

OK - We all know of the Health Issue - BUT -

Health also causes you to be Fat !! Think about that.
Heart disease and diabetes are usually thought to be problems for the overweight and the obese, but thin people aren't immune from these conditions,

Brain Tumors, Hypothyroidism ( Too little Thyroid ) Anxiety, Polycystic Ovary Syndrome, Extreme Tiredness ( All of which I have ! ) Plus - Diabetes, Steroid Treatments, Tiredness, Fluid retention, The list is endless

Certain medicines may also cause you to gain weight. These medicines could include some corticosteroids, antidepressants, and seizure medicines.

These medicines can slow the rate at which your body burns calories, increase your appetite, or cause your body to hold on to extra water. All of these factors can lead to weight gain.

Health also causes you to be Thin !! Think about that.

Coeliac disease, Crohn's disease, Ulcerative colitis. Hyperthyroidism ( Too much Thryoid ) Stress, Worms, Infections, Eating Disorders - Yet again - SO MANY THINGS CAN MAKE YOU THIN !

Sometimes medication may cause side-effects resulting in weight loss. For example, some pills may cause a loss of appetite, or a dry mouth. Some cause heartburn or give a mild tummy discomfort. Others may affect the sense of taste or smell, or make people feel sick. Any of these side-effects could affect eating habits and result in a loss of weight.

See what I mean - It's The same for everyone !!! 

Then there is the puzzle of dating - Fat verses Thin -
BUT - THAT'S DOWN TO INDIVIDUAL preference - SURELY !

I have Dated AS a Thinner person - and as a Fatter person
- and i must say -
as a Fat person - I am FAR FAR FAR MORE Picky -
Why - Mmmm -
I think I want to be 'comfortable' with my partner - and Not Used or appear 'easy' - as a thinner person - i presumed it was 'easy' to get a partner - but in fact - It's easy to get a partner whatever your size - and yes - from experience i can tell you that !! -
But - Being Fat - Im far far far more choosy - and so single - !!



Exercise - it's much easier for Thin people to get about - and thus maintain their shape -

BUT - Fat people CAN ( if there are no medical reasons why not )  - get about and 'do' !!! -

Fatties Can Exercise and stay healthy,

OK - Fat round the heart - that's NOT healthy in anyone's book -
Where is the individual fat distributed ??

With simple changes in diet - if wanted - Fat people CAN stay Fat and shed this Visceral fat ( Fat around the Heart, Lungs, Kidneys etc ) and it CAN be changed =



Simply by exercise and HEALTHY EATING - NOT dieting - Healthy eating !! -
On average, dieters can lose 5.6 per cent of  body weight - but a massive 10.6 per cent of visceral fat just by eating healthy foods - and on average - MOST fat people DO eat Healthy foods - ( Yeah I know then they stuff themselves with Junk !! THAT'S THE PROBLEM !! )
OK OK - less Medical Fact and more of the differences -

OH WOW - OK - SO - I've come up with Aa few things - and - ermmm - i think that's it - so the difference between FAT AND THIN really boils down to Health and/or Men/Womens individual preference !!

THAT'S TERRIBLE !!!!!

The health one i totally get - To be a 'decent' weight - is obviously healthier than being FAT - But

The Personnel Desire Option - How weak and shallow are we Humans !!!
Surely it's about what's inside !!
But still we all ( and yes i do mean ALL - Because even I have an inkling towards a particular type - and if that 'type' isn't met - then i tend to go 'off' that personage very quickly - if i speak to them at all - and even i think i'm shallow - so go on - shout at me !! ) tend to identify far better with 'people' men and women if they fit the 'normal' spectrum -




arrrrrrr but saying that

People who are FAT are seemingly more Happy and Chirpier than Thin individuals - and so - people are drawn towards a happy smiling face - and yet - Happy and smiling yet USUALLY unhappy on the inside - you don't often find a Happy / Cheery / CONFIDENT / and POSITIVE FAT person !!
( Hence the Body Positivity Movement !! ) But

SKINNY people can be deeply affected by the 'look' and their stature - so - Ohhh - Is it the same for BOTH PARTIES ??!!

Even some Thin people get told regularly that they are toooooo thin and unhealthy !! 'Are you ill' - 'do you need to see a doctor' - 'your not eating enough' - 'you look dreadful !' ..... 'You are evil' ...... 'Cor i'd like to have your problem'

FAT OR THIN - WE CAN'T WIN !! -

When i was a 'normal' size ( Size 12 ) - I was told - 'You look Gaunt' - 'You look pale' - 'You look tired' - 'You look like a boy' - 'Ohh i wish i was your size' ..... lol

THEN I GOT FAT due to Illness ....

When i put on weight ( Alot of weight due to a Brain Tumor ) ( size 30 ) - I was / am told - 'Fatty' - 'You should lose weight - that's not good to be that big' - 'Have you seen a doctor' - 'You eat to much' - 'Try going on a diet and doing more exercise' .....





IT GOES ON AND ON !!

So the answer -

BE AT ONE WITH WHO YOU ARE
FAT OR THIN
SMILE AND BE HAPPY !!

I would say it is better to be Fat and Healthy than Thin and Unfit !! -
Personally I prefer who I am NOW ( Being size 30 and ill )
I am actually far more 'at one with myself' NOW than when i was Fit and Thin and 'healthy' -
When I was Thinner I was not being myself - and 'acted' for the crowd - Saying what people wanted to hear - or 'trying' to fit in ....

Now - I don't care what people think - I know I am a nice person -
and actually I would like 'me' to be my friend -
I would do and try to help and i'm a better person for being 'at one' with who i am,
People would be Lucky for me to be in their lives - and if they think differently BECAUSE I AM FAT - Then so be it - THEY ARE THE ONES LOSING OUT - NOT ME  !



but then, that is Skinny Shaming is it not - Now i'm doing it ! - because -

A Thinner person can be totally 'in tune' and happy with themselves ............

WHY DO WE HAVE TO JUSTIFY OURSELVES TO OTHERS !!!!

Because society TELLS us we do ! -

If we are Fat we are WRONG
If we are Thin we are WRONG
If we are Tall we are WRONG
If we are Short we are WRONG
If we are Black we are WRONG
If we are White we are WRONG
If we have Spots we are WRONG
If we have a clear skin and flawless - we are WRONG

THE LIST IS ENDLESS AND EVER GOING !

I even have issues on 'Names' - I would prefer to go out with an 'Oliver' 'Max' or 'Ben'

Than a 'Trevor' 'Norbert' or a 'Neville' - and ohh my word - how stigmatic is that !!



We HAVE to learn we can not please all of the people all of the time !

And remember - that EVERYONE - AND THAT IS EVERYONE barr NONE - would change at least one thing about themselves, if they are perfectly honest - so

SOCIETY HAS TO CHANGE !!
IT HAS TO GROW - AS WE DO !
SOCIETY HAS TO ACCEPT THAT PEOPLE ARE INDIVIDUAL

AND

EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT
AND IT IS BETTER TO BE DIFFERENT
THAN FOR EVERYONE TO BE THE SAME !!



BE ALL AND END ALL





EVERYBODY SUFFERS FROM STIGMA AT SOMETIME IN THEIR LIFE

GET USED TO IT !!

GET A BACKBONE

LEARN TO IGNORE !!



AND TO EVERYONE WHO PRE-JUDGES -
IT SAYS ALOT MORE ABOUT YOU
THAN IT DOES ABOUT THEM !!

#FAT - #BODY #POSITIVITY #ACTIVISTS - #BBW #SSBBW

OK - So i have to say that i started having a peek at the internet on


Women and the Body Positivity Movement -


and it got me wondering !!

WHAT ARE THEY IN IT FOR ???

OK - I'm sceptical !!

Alot of the Ladies are so Positive and Confident and Smiley and Wonderful
- BUT -
So would I be
If I was being given money to make videos and write blogs !
BUT - I'm NOT -
I won't take money for something that is actually a passion of mine !! ....

And it got me thinking -
Are these GORGEOUS MODEL TYPE GIRLS
actually in it to promote Body Positivity and "LOVE THE SKIN YOU'RE IN" Moto's ?

Or .... are they in it for ' something else ' ????

Now - OK - Alot of us are in it for Self Promotion - To show off  'what we have'
as we do REALLY believe that we are over looked by society -
and we are TRYING to show - that :

FAT is FABULOUS,

and - to actually tell the guys - that it's ok to love FAT women !!
There need to be MORE males out there saying -

OK - I LOVE FAT GIRLS !!

Stop hiding behind others - It does not matter what your preference -

EVERYONE HAS A TYPE !

More about that in a minute - There a a Large Number of Curvy -
and i say Curvy - as Really - I would NOT class these Girls as FAT !!
Girls in the 'Movement' ......
Are they just in it too hear the guys salivate after them, I wonder ?
- and to hear other women say -
ohhh i wish i was more like her - ?? Mmmm I do wonder ....

Is it not MUCH better to give the Fat Community a Better goal ?

LOVE YOURSELF FOR WHO YOU ARE 

Not - Look at me - am I not confident and Sexy - BE LIKE ME ....

NO - BE LIKE YOU !! - BE YOU TIFUL !!

You need to be Encouraging Positivity Thoughts and Confidence Building Techniques -
Not showing a video of you in Bra and Knickers - saying -
I am so confident and Positive - Just be like me - and you will be happy !
Because :
WOMEN DO NOT WORK LIKE THAT !!!
Women need to accept themselves for who they are,
If they DON'T like being FAT - change it
Get off your ass and CHANGE IT

If you Can't change it -
For WHATEVER REASON -
THEN GET OVER YOURSELF
AND LIVE YOUR LIFE THE BEST WAY YOU CAN.

If you are going to be a Woman Blogger/Vlogger in the Positivity Movement -
I believe You have to show that you will have videos taken at your lowest ebb,
EVERYONE HAS THEM -
Show when you have no make up -
Show your fat days
Show when you have PMT
Show when your boyfriend has dumped you -

THATS REALITY !! That's what people want to see - THE REAL YOU !!

Not Barbie Doll - Made Up you -

SMILE FOR THE CAMERA - TURN - TURN - SMILE - POSE, HEAD UP - LOOK TO THE LEFT - ARM UP, HOLD IN THAT TUMMY, SMILE, POUT, HEAD DOWN

FFS- THAT'S NOT REAL - THATS STORYTIME !

At this point - i tried to find a photo of a :
Female WELL KNOWN YouTuber
in different good and BAD Pictures - But - Nope - Not one -
I could ONLY find GOOD / ACTUALLY BLOODY GORGEOUS PICTURES !! and ok - this is good - (!) Feel as though i kinda have to say that - But - well -
IT'S NOT THE REAL WORLD IS IT !!

One of the Female Body Positivity Movement Ladies - Loey Lane -
OK - SHE IS GORGEOUS = But - I would NOT class her as FAT =




and ok - to be fair - I have found one - No - No I have not - I can't find one photo of her that's bad !! - She is Gorgeous !!! - Some photos of her show her maybe one or two sizes bigger- but - hey -
the girl pulls it off - she is stunning !

I DON'T WANT HER TO TELL ME I LOOK FABULOUS - SHE LOOK ABOUT A SIZE 18 ?!

OK - Now - Tess Holiday - Now - there IS A PLUS SIZE GIRL !! = Wheww Wheww =
One with Confidence and she does Strutt her Stuff -
and trys to help the Body Positive Movement too ... Decent Quotes .....
and - SHE SHOWS HERSELF WITH AND WITHOUT MAKE UP !!! =
YAYYY! - Now that's what i'm talking

OHHH HANG ON - A wiki search comes up with this on TESS :

Ryann Maegen Hoven (born July 5, 1985), known professionally as Tess Holliday and formerly known as Tess Munster, is an American plus-size model based in Los Angeles. She self-describes as a "body positive activist" and started her #effyourbeautystandards movement on Instagram in 2013. In the same year, she was named by Vogue Italia as one of the top six plus-size models in the world. In 2015, Milk Model Management announced that they had signed Hoven, making her the largest plus-size model to be signed to a mainstream modeling agency.

Mmmmmmmm - She is Making a Packet !! -
and has her own Plus Size Label - and Accounts on all the social media =

Ohh FYI - This was the No Make up picture i found -
OMG - GORGEOUS HEY - I don't look like that with no make up !




I actually got the idea after watching - who i term as a Friend now - as I see his videos almost four times a week and we chat via social media - and he comments and chats on Facebook about my videos - his latest video - Link below - 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zp4o7EzHZ7k

This is Andrew - Complete with new hair - and CUTE HUH !!

MY RESPONSE TO ANDREW !! - Visible on YouTube !

 

Abigail Barry1 hour ago

isnt it weird - Because - I think that too - I CAN'T compete with you !!! - No - No WAY are you dodgy or creepy - Your and Coen and Ryan DON'T come over like that - You come over as a guy who is very very confident and happy with what you like - so - THAT'S WHY I LIKE YOU - I can't compete with Loey Lane etc They are NOT a TYPICAL - girl next door type - they are model types - ANDREW - I WOULD MUCH MUCH RATHER WATCH YOU - THAN WATCH ANOTHER WOMAN - I DON'T WANNA BE TOLD BY A WOMAN that im beautiful - I WANNA BE TOLD BY A GUY !! I'm not that way inclined - so - obviously i wanna be told by you guys - !! I also have the feeling that people like Loey Lane etc are in it for something - THEY ARE NOT IN IT FOR BODY POSITIVITY - I really think they are in it for the fame !! xx

  

The other two guys i mention - and their links are : 

https://www.youtube.com/user/curvyshrine - This is Coen's YouTube Channel

Everyone Know's I love Coen - and not for his looks - 
( Although - as you can see he is delicious ) But for his attitude and 
Outlook on life - He really is Inspirational ) 

https://www.youtube.com/user/lfbbulldog9961 - This is Ryan's YouTube Channel - 

Now Ryan is also Known as Gainz - as he says this at the beginning or end of videos - 
It's GAIIIINZ BABY YEAH - But - this is meaning his muscles- Or so i believe !
He is a Personnel Trainer and also at College atm 

Now - If ANY of these three Guys comes upto a Fat woman - WOW - If it were ME

PHEWWWW WHEWWWWWW WEEEEEEEEEEE

Thank you so much - I'd be DELIGHTED -

They are ALL 3 :

HOT HOT HOT,
ARTICULATE
KNOWLEDGEABLE
FUN
CHARMING
CONFIDENT ( OK - BUT Coen - YOU COME OVER AS CONFIDENT !! - Even if you say you are NOT ! )
COMMITTED TO A GREAT CAUSE ( The Body Positivity Movement )
HONEST
HUMBLE
HAS GOOD MANNERS
AND STRIVE TO HELP AND MAKE LADIES FEEL BETTER ABOUT THEMSELVES

BUT - I KNOW OF THESE THREE GUYS THAT ARE OUT THERE HELPING THE :

FEMALE BODY POSITIVITY MOVEMENT =


Perfect Boyfriend Material - AND THEY LOVE FAT GIRLS  - OMG - Of course I want to watch their videos - and see what there thoughts are on certain subjects - Yes - I wish to interact with them - and Yeah - ok - i wanna be PART OF THE BIGGER PICTURE TOO ! A 'Normal' Fat person - who is not after anything ( OK - except a bit of chat ! ) 'Normal' - Girl Next Door = Go out to put rubbish in the bin in my PJ's - Yup - Thats me !!

= I want to strive to make BIG GIRLS     ROCK THEIR CURVES !!

I understand that many ( inc the guys ) need cash to help promote their channel and really -

THEY ARE NOT GAINING ANYTHING ELSE -

Alot of the women however -
- ok -
MANY OF THE WOMEN - NOT ALL -
are in it - so it seems - for the cash -
AND I THINK THAT IS ABYSMAL -
GETTING PAID TO HELP OTHER WOMEN FEEL GOOD ABOUT THEMSELVES 

Naaaaaa - Just be a Model love - Get out of the Body Positivity Thing - 
Cause your not being true to yourself

Body Positivity is about being shown our own Stories and How 'we' Grew into the Positive and Confident person that we are today - It's not about ' Look at me ' ........ ' Be like me ' ......... 
It's about giving advice, and communicating with viewers and readers - it's about Being 'Nice' and helping show others whats good - and what can be better - But - above all 

It's about being HONEST !